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When we’re alive, we dare to be who we are—magnificent and powerful, living whole—fully in the moment—with authenticity, sensitivity, compassion, gratitude and mindfulness.

Living authentically in the present moment runs deep—springing from the core of our being. Absent are the “aliveness killers” of dishonesty, delusions, violence and denial.

In a state of aliveness one is open, aware, and in the flow or “zone” of a life-giving energy that guides one in making good choices. Often they include giving something to what the world sorely needs – love, healing and regeneration.

Aliveness is not synonymous with happiness, but true happiness isn’t possible apart from aliveness.

Getting To Aliveness

This is not easy work because we’re so well socialized into a culture of  suppression that covers over our wholeness and power. Aliveness can be elusive. You can’t strive for and have aliveness at the same time. But you can work on specific things that lead to aliveness. 

For example, all seven questions here connect to aliveness if you deal with them honestly. If you get stuck, it may help to work on them within a group you trust for mutual support.

The work involves you in: Reflection. Practice. Observation. Commitment. Rituals. Faith. Forgiveness. and Love.

If aliveness shows up, you’ll know it. Remember the feeling, and its life-giving power. Expand on what works for you.

When aliveness slips away, as it so often does, be kind to yourself. Hang in there, because nothing will give your life more meaning, satisfaction and happiness as will the state of aliveness. And nothing will benefit the world more than what you do coming from a state of aliveness.

1. Where is my mind now — is it in the past? the future? or the present?

Being present to the truth of the moment no matter how painful, sorrowful, or unpleasant is a road back to aliveness and freedom of choosing more wisely. 

2. What truth do I need to own up to that I am not now facing?

The key here is honesty. And this is tough. How does one wake up from denial when it has been such an effective protective mechanism for so long. Waking up from denial and avoidance is a step leading to aliveness.

3. Are there any other destructive cycles that are part of my life?

Destructive cycles are “aliveness killers”. Breaking away from them is a path leading to aliveness—even when there aren’t clear answers about how to live without them. Living with the unknown can actually give one a sense of daring adventure and resolve. It’s always within one’s power to make wiser choices.

  1. 4.Is forgiveness of myself and others something I need to work on?

Carrying around a grudge is like a noose around the neck. It chokes off your life.  Forgiving and letting go is a path back to aliveness.

  1. 5. How connected (or disconnected) am I with others and all other life?

It is difficult to experience aliveness when we feel disconnected from ourselves, others and the world. Nature teaches us that we aren’t separate—that all Life is connected and interdependent.

So, sharing honestly with others is one of the most connecting, empowering things we can do. We learn we’re not alone and, by getting things into the open, one is better able to deal with challenges. 

6. Am I caring enough to make a meaningful contribution to others and society at large?

Philosopher William Hocking’s final words to the world was this: “Nothing so satisfies a life as knowing it has something to do, that it can do, and that is needed by the world at large.”

We can all make a difference in someone else’s life. In caring we come into aliveness. Howard Zinn said it well. “If we do act in however small a way we don’t have to wait for some grand utopian future. The future is an infinite succession of present moments, And to live now, as we think human beings should live, in defiance of all that is bad around us, is itself a marvelous victory.” Not that it’s easy, but ultimately it will be up to us to bring ourselves into alignment with earth’s requirements to survive and thrive over the long term.

7. What am I grateful for?

In any situation, there is space for gratefulness. It can be in the form of a smile, a budding flower, a deep love, forgiveness, awareness, a lesson or having the ability to give what’s needed.

Acknowledging gratitude is a form of celebration. Embrace it. Treasure it. Bless it. It is a high peak of aliveness!


Aliveness is the bedrock of a better life and the foundation for a better world.

So, may aliveness ignite within you and ripple outward from there.

                                        Sook H.

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Self Examination: Seven key questions on the road to Aliveness.